|Sunrise over the Matterhorn. I took this photo in 2004 when I was teaching in Zermatt, Switzerland|
Has your body ever given you a big ‘ole kick in the rear to tell you, “Hey, you’ve gotta make some changes?” Mine certainly has…over and over again because apparently, I haven’t yet learned my lesson.
|A beautiful snowy day in California|
There are many steps in my recovery process, and I’m only partially through them, but bit-by-bit, I’m getting there.
For a long time, I had an aversion to hiring people to help me with things like cleaning and yard work. Many years ago, however, I was having a lot of back pain, and my doctor told me I couldn’t do housework. Although I knew scrubbing the bathtub and pushing the vacuum was aggravating the disc bulge in my lower back, I couldn’t quite imagine not cleaning my own home. Plus, I prided myself on being a good housekeeper. I think at one point, I even mentioned it as one of my skills in an online dating profile (I eventually deleted it, when I realized this wasn’t particularly sexy.)
|Me with a very large root vegetable I grew all-by-myself|
Recently, my mom and I spent countless long hours working on our book about the mind-body-spirit connection to what and how we eat. Sometimes we’d get so wrapped up in it that we’d go days upon days without ever leaving the house or even setting foot on the front lawn. Two days before the book was due, guess what…my back went out. It was my body’s way of rebelling and saying, “Hey, get some help. You don’t have to do everything!” As I said, I’m a recovering DIYer, which means occasionally I slip back into my old ways. So, now confined to a recumbent position per doctor’s orders, I got someone to assist me around the house today. Everything looks and feels so much better that I can’t help but wonder how else my life will improve when I let go of control and allow others to help.
Are you like me and sometimes wait until your body yells, “Enough is enough”? It’s not always easy to realize you don’t have to do everything yourself. What actions can you take today to preempt your body from finding its own ways to get you to slow down? Consider taking a luxuriously long bath, making a plan for delegating your work, or maybe even creating a delicious dinner, simply because you deserve it.
|Root vegetables from my garden|
As we follow the cycle of life, every season has its own energy. Traditionally, the winter is the time to pull inward and nurture yourself. It’s a time to replenish your strength and take care of your own needs, which might very well mean getting some help with all the things on your “to do” list. In the meantime, what better way to nourish your body and soul than with a warm plate of roasted root vegetables!
1 lb. gold potatoes (skin on), cut into bite-sized pieces
1 lb. carrots, peeled and cut into bite-sized pieces
1 lb. beets, peeled and cut into bite-sized pieces
1 lb. parsnips, peeled and cut into bite-sized pieces
10-15 sage leaves, chopped
1 tsp. sea salt
½ tsp. coarse ground pepper
¼ cup olive oil
Preheat the oven to 450ºF. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper.
This is a rustic dish; however, the more uniform you can make the size of the vegetables (about ½-1 inch sized pieces), the more evenly they’ll roast.
Wash, peel, and cut the vegetables. Divide the cut vegetables evenly between the two baking sheets. Sprinkle with the sage, salt, and pepper. Drizzle the olive oil over the vegetables and toss together. I find that my hands are the best tools for this.
Put in the oven and roast until the vegetables are cooked through and browned on the outside, about an hour. To help the vegetables brown evenly, I recommend rotating the pans from top to bottom halfway through and stirring the vegetables once or twice while they’re roasting.
I love this post, Meadow. As someone who also dislikes asking for help, I can totally relate. However, I have discovered I am denying someone the blessing of giving to me when I refuse to ask for assistance. Love the roased root vegetables! can't wait until your cookbook is out.ReplyDelete
what a satisfying & nurturing meal. can i put a little goat cheese on that?ReplyDelete
Yum! Goat cheese with the roasted root vegetables would be so delicious! Or toss the leftover roasted vegetables with arugula, goat cheese & walnuts and dress with a balsamic vinaigrette. I'm getting hungry even though I'm still full from dinner. Ha ha! Thanks! Great idea!ReplyDelete
I completely agree, having lived alone for 8 years I found myself to be such a DIYer that I was inadvertently pushing people away - and all that will get me is a one way ticket to lonely town!ReplyDelete
Now I FORCE myself to reach out and ask for help - which does not come naturally, but I'm trying :)
Lesson learned for me. I ended up with Bell's Palsy after a long and very intense DIY episode. I made a full recovery which also incorporated a whole lot more delegating.ReplyDelete
Great article! Hope your back feels better. It isn't easy for me to ask for help, I enjoyed reading this article.ReplyDelete
Yes, Yes, Yes, and Yes!!! I can SO relate to your DIY tendencies, Meadow. Been there! But one can become reformed, as I'm sure you are catching glimpses of rom your reclined position. I hope that you feel better soon.ReplyDelete
Once again, I love your prose, pictures and recipe.
Love and healing hugs,
Meadow- Absolutely love this posting!!! why is it we always defer Help???? Wonderfully written reminder that will also free us up to have time to enjoy preparing your delicious receipes and relaxing time to enjoy them!! Ahhh, thank you soo much! Sending huge hugs of appreciation and sending you healing wishes to get well soon! Love, CindyReplyDelete